Coaching for People - NLP for Assertiveness
Getting in the right state emotionally and mentally
I wonder what you mean by the word "assertive". Maybe it's one of those things you've always wished you had, perhaps you've seen it in other people or you feel there is an absence of assertiveness in your own behaviour.
I have a feeling assertiveness is not nearly as unobtainable or tricky as many believe. It can be easy to suppose some people are somehow just born that way, yet the truth is we can all learn these skills. It all starts from how you feel, what you say to yourself and what you imagine about others. And, guess what .... you can learn to control those things, to create your own internal programmes. You can decide what you are going to feel, how you will speak to yourself USEFULLY and the kind of things you imagine about people to create better beliefs for yourself.
How do I use coaching and NLP to help you
It seems to me that my job is to create good feelings, useful thoughts and constructive imaginations long enough for you to discover more choices and options for yourself. And that can happen in a split second. I have seen clients make a change that quickly and they realise they can continue to feel that way. It's like somebody flicked a switch inside - EUREKA!
Because when you discover how easy it is to take control of your internal states, you realise how you can feel comfortable dealing with all kinds of people maintaining your power and free will, saying what you want to say with ease and confidence, seeing a whole array of opportunities arising because you are in control and because you are feeling good.
How will being more assertive affect your relationships
Often a lack of assertiveness can arise from a fear of saying the wrong thing to somebody, upsetting them or losing their affection. Unfortunately these kind of fears can actually do more harm to relationships than anything you might say to somebody. You may have heard about how dogs smell fear - well so can people. And fear is a poor foundation for any kind of relationship at home, at work or even dealing with somebody in a shop or bank.
Fortunately, you can learn to overcome fear, to feel braver, more courageous or just to have more fun when you are talking to others. Just as people can smell fear, they can also sense pleasure. So when you are feeling good you will have an effect on those around you.
When Richard Bandler and John Grinder developed NLP, they were very interested in how people create rapport with one another. Their studies led to helpful insights and practical methods of achieving good natural rapport. And when I coach my clients I share these techniques with you.
Having your say, influencing and making a difference
Human beings influence one another all of the time. We exchange ideas and we adapt to what others tell us just as they adapt to what we tell them. Yet, some people seem to have more influence than others. This is not because they necessarily know more. It is because they are better at getting their views across in a convincing and persuasive way.
I reckon your views, beliefs and what you have to say is just as important as everybody else's. In fact, you probably know a great deal more about some things too. So when you become more naturally assertive and comfortable in your interaction with others you will benefit from knowing how to say things so people will hear you, pay attention to you and so you have influence.
NLP has modelled the strategies used by effective communicators. And I will teach you these strategies as part of the coaching process. So when you have something useful to say you can make a difference, you can contribute in a meaningful way and have some effect.
Getting results
In just a few hours you can learn to express yourself from a state of calm confidence, to assert yourself in an appropriate and natural way. And you can discover some practical ways of being more persuasive when you speak to others.
The good thing about learning assertiveness this way is the ability you will develop to make others around you feel good. So rather than assertiveness feeling like some kind of battle of wills, it actually feels like simply getting on more easily with people and just enjoying yourself in the process.
Before making any commitment to coaching or training why not contact me to discuss your needs and find out more about the way you can benefit from the work I do.
You have the reassurance of knowing I am a certified NLP Trainer, trained by Richard Bandler (co-creator of NLP) and licenced by the Society of NLP
How NLP can help you be assertive
NLP Coaching will help you become moe assertive in the following ways:
Overcoming fears of upsetting others
Defeating feelings of inadequacy or inferiority
Building useful beliefs about yourself
Creating good emotional states in yourself when dealing with others
Gaining an understanding of others' perspectives
Trusting yourself
Having more fun
Developing your natural sense of humour
Making yourself understood
Building rapport with others
Understanding more about other people's communication
Learning how to make yourself feel good instantly
Learning how to make others feel good instantly
Developing your non-verbal communication
Using language more persuasively
Becoming more charismatic and influential
What next
If you are interested in what you have read here, would like to explore how coaching and NLP might help you, or if you feel you would like more information you might like to do the following:
1) E-mail me - info@springtomind.co.uk, ask me some questions, explain your requirements or request a free initial consultation.
2) Telephone me on +44 (0) 7771 823651 to get some immediate answers, have a more detailed chat about my work, get an overview to see if you like the sound of what I do or just get a feel for NLP.
3) Arrange a free initial consultation by e-mail or phone. Meet me face to face for some concrete ideas about the way forward, ask me for some suggestions or to see how NLP and coaching might fit with the big picture for you.
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